The Square Peg

Embracing the mojo because cutting
corners seemed counter-productive.

Well, well, well, today's 5 Question Friday questions are just as diverse as last week's. I like diversity. It keeps me on my toes. 
 
1. Take your pick...date night, girls night out, or night out alone?
Date night with Moose or some good, ol' girl time, depending on which I've been lacking at the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my alone time. If I don't get enough, I get really twitchy; but going out for a night alone just seems weird.

2. Can you touch your nose with your tongue? Why would I want to; who wants a wet nose? I do flip my tongue around in my mouth freakishly fast though, and I can tie a cherry stem in a knot using just my tongue, but I have yet to discover when either of those skills would be necessary or useful. Nope, nothing McGyver or Jason Bourne-like in this body. Stupid, useless non-life-saving, non-terrorist-thwarting tongue skills.

3. What is your favorite flower and why? Tulips...they're unique, beautiful, come in a rainbow of colors, have perfect posture, and cannot be taken for granted because their 'bloom time' window is a small one.

4. If you could go back in time, what advice would you give yourself?  
 1) Always trust your gut and don't give in to pressure; not even from people who love you.
 2) Be very choosy about who gets your emotions and your time...those people influence you more than you realize.
 3) Never take your husband for granted or put him on the back burner.
 4) Enjoy your kid while he's little; play more, lecture less. Make sure he knows you love him no matter what
 5) Take care of your body. Be your own health care advocate. 

5. If you won the lottery, what is the very first thing you would do? So many things come to mind, like, pee my pants, scream and jump for joy, call my Mom, go pick up the check, etc. But after that stuff's all said and done and the money is in the bank, what I'd actually do is write checks to the schools my boys want to go to and get them set up for that.
And I know you want to know what else I'd do with the money, so I'll go ahead and tell you the next few things on my mental 'lottery money' list.  I'd write checks to a few charities, set up secure accounts for our future, the kids and other family members, and plan a couple of big trips...one for Moose and me to the private island we've dreamed about visiting for several years now, and one to take the whole family on a nice cruise. And then I'd get my boobs lifted. 'Cause I'd want the girls to look extra nice for that private island trip. Don't judge me; I'm just keepin' it real.

Happy Friday! :D

Wow, it's been such a busy, fast-paced week, I almost forgot about Five Question Friday! Our travel passports came in on Monday, and I promptly booked us on a tour to Amsterdam, Holland. We leave tonight (technically, tomorrow morning). I'll be sure to tell you all about it when I get back, but now it's time for the May 7th edition of Five Question Friday.

1. What is your worst memory of your siblings?  
My step-siblings and I weren't raised together (and there's a decent gap between our ages), so there are no bad memories.

2. What was YOUR naughtiest childhood memory? (Must be something YOU did, no pawning it off on someone else!)  
There were so many to choose from it was hard to pick one, but I finally managed. 

When I was about 8 or 9, I was getting ready to take a bath and I decided to shave my legs. I didn't know how much pressure to use when holding the razor, and ended up cutting the front of my leg from just above my ankle to a little below the knee. I'm pretty sure if records were kept for 'Most Flesh Removed With Only One Swipe Of A Razor', I'd be the record holder.

When I saw the blood begin to pool up to the surface, my natural reaction was to lower my leg into the water to make the blood disappear. But sticking my leg in the water only made the cut sting and, of course, the blood wasn't going to stop for a few minutes. I started yelling and crying and when Dad came in the bathroom to see what was going on, I told him Mom's razor fell into the bathtub and cut my leg. He started fussing at her real good about being so careless but after I was all dried off and cleaned up, they took a good look at my legs and discovered that one of them was completely hair-free. Yeah, they didn't believe the razor fell in the water and shaved one leg before cutting the other. I wonder why?? :)

More than 30 years later, I still have a place on my leg that's lighter in color than the rest. And it still makes me wince to think about that cut that day. *shudders*

3. Where do you like to go to relax?  
I don't like the ocean that much; something about getting sand in my car, my hair and my butt crack just irritates me to no end. The beach is not so fun that I want to carry it with me for the next several days (in the car), or spend half an hour rinsing it off my scalp or out of...never mind. But lying on a float in the pool and soaking up some rays relaxes me like little else can, especially when it's quiet and I can hear the birds singing and talking to whomever cares to listen. It's here that my problems become smaller and God becomes bigger. Here is where I slow my roll long enough to catch my breath and enjoy the beauty of creation. And this is where I get the most clarity regarding life and faith, as well as the refreshment I need to feel charged up enough to get back to reality.

4. What was the last thing you won? 
I don't know if it was the last thing I won, but I won the squadron chili cook-off when we lived in Georgia the first time. I got a certificate and Moose got a day off work.

5. If you could be on a game show, which would you choose? 
Debt. Does anybody remember that show? I don't think it was on long but I liked it because if you made it to the final round, you could pick any TV show or movie you wanted to be asked a question about. And since the amount of your debt was the amount you'd win, I knew I'd be debt free by the end of the show. I always said I'd pick the TV show Friends because, to borrow a phrase from Forrest Gump, I know everything there is to know about Friends. I've seen all the episodes at least once and watch the reruns when they're on. Well, I used to, anyway. I don't watch any regular TV here in Germany; any TV I watch is off the internet. Thank God for Hulu. Friends was the show I could count on to make me laugh and forget everything around me for 30 minutes at a time. Well, except for the season Rachel was pregnant. That season was flat out stupid. My favorite episode? When they had the 'game show' to see whether the guys knew the girls better or vice versa, and the girls bet (and subsequently lost) their apartment. 
If you have a blog, would you consider jumping in and joining us for 5QF? The links are below. If you don't have a blog, will you post your answers to the questions in the comment section? I'd love to read your story. :)

I'm off to be sure I've got the camera in my backpack. Can't go see all those beautiful flowers without a camera to capture some of their beauty for my scrapbook, right?

Peace out. 
Eva

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Where does joy come from? Is it something you stumble across when wandering aimlessly or can you plug its address into your gps and go find its locale? Is there a Joy Jackpot that some lucky people manage to hit? Does it come and go like a shooting star, suddenly and without any warning?


I think joy is intentional. I also think it's related to peace, as well as happiness.

Joy is intentional. 
There are a million reasons to become upset, hurt, angry, bitter, and depressed in life. People will spitefully use you, maliciously hurt you, take advantage of you, and sometimes even blame you for their own self-destruction. Money won't always be your BFF; neither will your health. And possibly not even a job.

But you can intentionally seek reasons to be joyful.

Christians are supposed to have a hope in Christ, but I know some atheist, agnostic, and humanist friends who are more hopeful during trying times than some of the Christians I know. And we all know someone who is negative about everything, no matter what's going on in his life. You know who I'm talking about: the person you're afraid to ask how things are going because you know he's actually going to tell you. I know a woman who is so negative, that on the occasions when I bump into her, I walk away feeling verbally assaulted with all of her negativity and dissatisfaction with everything around her. And to make it worse, she's a topper. So if she's having it bad, her bad is worse than any bad anyone else has ever had. And her great times are superior to everyone else's as well, although they're few and far in between. It's hard for me to be any kind of friend to this gal because it doesn't seem like she wants to be happy, and I'm a fixer by nature.

Joy is related to peace.
Intentionally looking for reasons to be joyful often brings me around to re-examining my core beliefs and ultimately, I find peace.

I am an eternally optimist person. One of my deeply held beliefs is that things work out well in the end. When things aren't looking good, I'm convinced it's not the end. I'm still sitting in my seat, waiting for the fat lady to sing.

I've navigated my fair share of life's hardships. And I can honestly tell you that through all of them, I have believed that some how, some way, at some point, things will make sense and they'll work out for the best. Now, that 'best' isn't always what I thought was best, but I've always been able to look back on a situation or season after it was over and see that what it ended up looking like was indeed, for the best. Including the two-month marriage to my physically abusive ex-husband, as well as the ensuing two years it took me to legally get him out of my life. It was a pretty rough season in my life, but when I look back on that tumultuous time, I can definitively say I never felt alone. And that's a peace that brings joy.

Joy is related to happiness.
It's hard to stay cranky and bitter when you trust the One who says He loves you and has you in the palm of His hand. I personally believe God loves us simply because we exist. After all, that's why I love my kids. My love for them never hinges on their behavior and I expect God is the same. When I find that I'm having a pretty easy time gettin my grumpy on, it's usually because I'm not confident that God is still on the throne. Thinking I'm here alone feeling lost and abandoned makes me do crazy, desperate things. But stopping to catch my breath, and remembering the things I've already experienced relating to God's character, usually brings the proverbial cold water splash to the face that snaps me back to a reality of confident knowledge. And that leads to happiness because I am able to intentionally find some joy in life.

Let's take off that Garment of Grumpiness and go find some joy. Cause our Daddy loves us like no other and despite how we might "feel", that actually means something. And let's not trust our emotions all the time; they have a tendency to take off and when they do, we don't want to be on board.

Eva

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